Finding Confidence


In a time where our iPhones are like an extension of our bodies and everything we want or need to know is at our fingertips, comparison and self doubt are always in the back of our minds. I feel like somewhere along the way we started making perfection what we strive for as opposed to progress. Why do we set unattainable goals and expectations for ourselves? I struggle with having confidence in myself every day whether it be about the work that I'm doing at school, my body, my appearance, my future career path, or just balancing everything I have on my plate. I am a control freak. I like to know what is coming next and I want to have a say in a lot of things that are out of my control.

I feel like finding confidence in ourselves comes when we put our best self forward. You can only give so much each day, so instead of striving for perfection, let's strive for a life that we are proud of. I think life is about working hard and doing what you can each day to get closer to where you want to be. There is a lot of pressure to do everything and be busy all the time. Allowing yourself to lift that weight off your shoulders and live with the intention of doing what you can every day is how we can become more confident in ourselves and the work that we do. We should not feel obligated to live a perfect life or obtain perfect results in work, fitness, or relationships, but I think we should feel obligated to give our best effort. In life, sometimes we feel like we are owed success or the results we want, but the truth is, what you put into a project, goal, or your life, is what you will get back. This past semester, I failed one of my accounting exams and I was really disappointed in myself. Disappointed not because of the grade that I got or because I didn't know the material, but because I knew I could have done a lot better if I would have put in the effort. I am a firm believer that what you put into your life, is what you get back. If you study a little more for a test, you will do a little better than you thought. If you show kindness and positivity to others even when you're having a bad day, you will get kindness and positivity back.

It doesn't have to be the start of a new year to be confident and satisfied with who you are and to find joy and happiness in your life. It is easier said than done, but most everything we want out of life is out there for us, we just have to be willing to work for it. Put aside the expectation to be five places at once, to have a certain body, or to not make any mistakes in a project. Accept where you are, decide where it is you want to be, and commit to pushing yourself just a little bit more to get there. I truly believe that you if you wake up every day with a positive mindset and really believe in yourself, you can accomplish anything.

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